Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Oh rejection!

Todays Funfactor:Spending some time showing my daughter exercises tonight and also steppin outside my box to ride the cardio train at the gym! Not done that in over 6 months!

After another painful (perceived) rejection, i decided to look up the ugly monster and here is what i found:
Wikipedia says:

1."The experience of being rejected is subjective for the recipeint and it can be perceived when it is not actually present."

2."...the majority of human anxieties appear to reflect concerns over social exclusion."

3."Our need for affiliation and social interaction appears to be particularly strong when we are under stress."

4."Suprisingly, people feel rejected even when they know they are only playing against (a) computer"

5.In one study , men disengaged more quickly and showed more face-saving techniques, such as pretending to be uninterested .VERY interesting.Women tend to seek approval more often.

6.There is a phenomenon called "falling upward" which means that people tend to desire someone higher than themselves in status or attractiveness, which increases the chances for rejection.(wow...pretty depressing to know someone is rejecting you because they think they are better than you!)

7. And finally, there is such a thing as "rejection sensitivity" - which is basically just being more sensitive to rejection than most.(me)

There were some other sites but not much worth quoting.Most of them were selling something. Go figure. Especially when it is pretty common knowledge that those who fee chronically rejected are especially gullible . But I guess it's the same way with those who are overweight or who feel unattarctive. Some people just leech off the insecurities of others.

I, for one,have been rejected on many, many, many occasions. But overall, after the sting subsides , I HAVE BECOME A LITTLE STRONGER INSIDE each time.

Just check out that smile in the pic!(with my brother on Thanksgiving).


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